Leadership - How to Get People to Follow You

Inspired By  Simon Sinek
1 hour

Quick Summary

A brilliant video about real leadership and how much we need this in more companies in the modern day world. 

You put people in a bad environment and they will eventually do bad things. You put people in a good environment and they will do good things. The leader is responsible for the environment.

Key points about leadership

  • You put people in a bad environment and they will eventually do bad things. You put people in a good environment and they will do good things. The leader is responsible for the environment.
  • It’s not about getting the right people on the bus. You ask 'which bus and who’s driving the bus?' The bus matters.
  • Leadership has nothing do with rank, it has everything to do with responsibility. Even people at the highest rank, we do what they say but we will not follow them if we don’t like them.
  • Leadership is a skill that can be learned. So we have to practice it to get good at it. Make decisions that will impact how other people feel about their jobs.
  • Becoming a leader is about going through a transition. If you choose to become a leader, you must want really want this, then you have to go through a transition.
  • You are now not responsible for the job, you are responsible for the people that do the job. You are responsible for the people, who support the people, who support the customer.
  • You don’t want the team to protect themselves from their leaders, instead of doing their job.
  • Ask your team when you walk past them and ask ‘Is there anything I can do for you?’ This environment supports them to be themselves.
  • Leaders must have courage because it’s hard to stand up against outside pressure... the courage to do the right thing in the face of overwhelming courage.
  • Courage is not some deep internal fortitude. Our courage is external and comes from the support you have from others. When someone has you and says ‘I’ve got ya, you can do this.’ It’s the people around us that love us and care for us.
  • Those relationships that we foster will not only make us into the leaders we are meant to be but they will also save us from depression, anxiety…
  • Being vulnerable - saying what you feel to others without worrying about what they think.
  • Commit yourself to the act of service. This is in relationship, exercise, becoming a leader… you have to commit. It’s an accumulation of lots and lots of little things that you do consistently.
  • If you ask the question ‘How’s your day going?’ and really care about the answer that will make the difference. Create brothers and sisters our of strangers in the office environment. You may fight but you really care about them and when someone challenges them from the outside we protect them. 

Leaders - A love and devotion for people that have committed their lives to the organisation. 

  • Loyalty is much higher, the turn of staff is a lot less. 
  • You want people to say and feel about their leader ‘that person cares about me.’
  • We don’t want to be managed, we want to be lead
  • 12th step in AA - is help another alcoholic - it’s about service. If they don’t do this they will likely fall back into alcoholism.
  • Create an environment where people are passionate. Everyone has passion. It’s not about saying we only hire people who are passionate as everyone has passion. Give me something to care about. Work in a place that makes a difference and has purpose.

Working for something that you don’t care about is called stress. Working for something that you care deeply about is called passion.  

The Millenials

If millennials (born 1984 and after) do work in an environment that is driven by great leaders and has great culture and they are still not happy, then there are some essential things missing that they are yet to learn. 
  • Parenting
  • Technology
  • Impatience
  • Environment

Failed parenting strategies - told they were special, they could have their anything they want, got medals for coming in last, got A’s because their parents pushed for it from the teachers. 

Then they are thrust into the world and realise they aren’t special, they are not good at what they do. They have also grown up with social media and filters - showing everyone that life is amazing even though they may be depressed. Everyone sounds like they have everything figured out on social media but they don't. So you have an entire generation growing up with lower self-esteem them any generation even below. 

The trauma for kids to be unfriended is strong. Dopamine is realised when we are liked and it’s highly, highly addictive. We used to only need approval from our parents, now we want approval from everyone. These actions become hardwired in their brains. 

Dopamine-producing devices

Too many kids don’t know how to have deep meaning relationships. They never practice the skill set and they don’t have the coping mechanisms to deal with stress. So when significant stress starts to show up in their lives they are not turning to a person, they are turning to a device. Social media. These things offer temporary relief. 

More people that spend time on Facebook get more depressed. The reason you cannot put it away means you are addicted and in time it will cost your relationships. 

Job satisfaction and relationships - there is no quick fix for this. 

Patience and building relationships

Kids have this abstract concept of making an impact. They want to do it now. They need patience. Like love, job fulfilment takes time. The overall journey is arduous, long and difficult. 

Corporate companies care more about the stats than the person. They aren’t helping them overcome the need to have instant gratification and working hard on something for a long time. The worst part about it is they think it’s them. It’s the corporate environments and lack of good leadership.

There should be no cell phones in conference rooms. It’s the slow steady consistency of relationships that need to form. Ideas happen when our minds wander. You need to have time to get creative. In industry, we now have a responsibility to make up the shortfall.  

We need to now help with this wonderful, idealistic generation build confidence, learn patience, learn social skills and find a better balance between life and technology. 

Leaders are learners and the ones that stay open as leaders will go much farther ahead. 

Simon Sinek's new book: Together is better. The book is scented and the scent is of optimism. It’s a gift book designed to promote engaging with the real world.

Interview by Tom Bilyeu

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